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ferretchucker
10-23-2007, 04:47 PM
I don't want to sound emo or anything but everything is going wrong. My mum's had a brain hemerage, my half sister is in depression and her baby (my nephew) is really sick. I haven't spoken to my half brother in months because we always end up shouting at each other.

But on top of this, I just found out that one of my best friends (also my other best friends girlfriend) who is 14 has gone back to her old self. She's smoking and drinking and taking drugs, she lost her virginity at 12 years old. She also slit her wrists. Me, and my other two best friends helped her out of it and she stopped. It's been a few months since then.

Well, the other day we smelt smoke on her breath and found some vodka in her bag and some new scars on her arms. My friend who was going out with her wasn't sure what to do. Today, we found out she'd ditched some of her girl-friends who's house she was sleeping around to go and sleep around the house of a 15 and 17 year old. She sent a text of her in her underwear with the boys to the people she'd ditched and they showed us. So I had a huge argument with her over the phone which ended in me calling her a slag and a bitch and hanging up. She was one of my best friends and within a few days we've ended up hating each other. SHE'S FUCKING 14!


Sorry to post this but I had to speak to someone about it all.
Disease
10-23-2007, 05:01 PM
leave her be for a bit, it may just be attention seeking....
ferretchucker
10-23-2007, 05:05 PM
I hope so. She was a good friend but I don't think I wanna be friends with someone who does this kind of stuff.
neverending
10-23-2007, 05:11 PM
Everyone acts out and does weird stuff at some point in their lives. Hang in there and be a good friend to her. That's what she needs.
crabapple
10-23-2007, 05:31 PM
Good advice from everyone. And, also, be a good friend to yourself. Try to be as centered as possible in times of challenge. Some days it takes effort to stay in your center. You can do it.
Freak
10-23-2007, 06:14 PM
It could be her just trying to get attention or it could be a huge cry for help.If she really is as good of a friend as you say she is then you'll stick by her and try to help her out.
AUSTIN316426808
10-23-2007, 07:17 PM
Hope things start getting better for ya.

No need for more advice, what's been given is good enough.
GorePhobia
10-23-2007, 07:40 PM
They start young these days I swear. Just let her know that your there for here and try to make it obvious that it bothers you and your just trying to help.
X¤MurderDoll¤X
10-23-2007, 07:49 PM
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v721/cirquemacabre/emo.gif
AUSTIN316426808
10-23-2007, 07:55 PM
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v721/cirquemacabre/emo.gif



I could be off, but are the glasses suppose to imply something?
X¤MurderDoll¤X
10-23-2007, 07:56 PM
I could be off, but are the glasses suppose to imply something?

they are emo glasses. ;)

http://www.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto/Articles/2029296/emoglasses_Full.jpg

Best advice for you ferret: fucked up friends are always gonna be fucked up friends so either accept them for that or fuck off basically.
AUSTIN316426808
10-23-2007, 08:17 PM
they are emo glasses. ;)


Best advice for you ferret: fucked up friends are always gonna be fucked up friends so either accept them for that or fuck off basically.


I retract my previous statement. I completely agree.
ManchestrMorgue
10-23-2007, 08:51 PM
If she is behaving like that, it is likely that there is something going on in her life that is distressing her (either currently or from the past). It is, in a way, "attention seeking" or a "cry for help" but she may not be doing that consciously.

Whatever the case, it doesn't sound like something that you are just going to be able to "fix" by a bit of a talk or the like. It is likely to be a long ride...
Phalanx
10-24-2007, 02:04 AM
Sounds to me like their life is fucked, and yours could just as well be better off not letting them drag it through the shit their stupidity has got 'em sunk into.
ferretchucker
10-24-2007, 03:30 AM
Thanks for the advice everyone, it honestly has helped. I still haven't spoken to her yet but I think I do have to try and help her through it all again. After all, she was a great friend and I know that she did have a bit of a sad childhood. (Her dad fucked off before she was born then came back when she was 5). The hardest part will be trying to get passed the pretty rough phone conversation we had.
GorePhobia
10-24-2007, 04:58 AM
Hope it all works out for ya.
novakru
10-24-2007, 01:22 PM
I'm sorry you're having a hard time sweetie.
But cheer up, it always gets better just before everything gets fucked up again.