Alone again, naturally

[noctuary]

I've been gone for quite some time, and I thought I'd make a thread explaining, if anyone cares. Just after Christmas, my girlfriend told me that she didn't love me anymore, and she was leaving. Since then I've pretty much been wandering around in a daze, in a black hole of depression. For the first time, this morning I woke up feeling as if I could finally rejoin the human race. I'm far from over it, but maybe I can start moving in that direction soon. Unfortunately, I've got two months before the lease is up on our apartment, so I get to rattle around here with our memories. Fun, huh? Anyway, I'm not dead, hello again.

[Haunted]

We've all been there, Noc. Sucks. Good to see you've come out of the coma. Stick around, because there's so much "fun" to be had here. Really. I swear it.

Well... at least it might take your mind off of a few things.

Hit your old crew up for some conversations. We're arbitrary so, there won't be any bias.

[Zero]

I've been gone for quite some time, and I thought I'd make a thread explaining, if anyone cares. Just after Christmas, my girlfriend told me that she didn't love me anymore, and she was leaving. Since then I've pretty much been wandering around in a daze, in a black hole of depression. For the first time, this morning I woke up feeling as if I could finally rejoin the human race. I'm far from over it, but maybe I can start moving in that direction soon. Unfortunately, I've got two months before the lease is up on our apartment, so I get to rattle around here with our memories. Fun, huh? Anyway, I'm not dead, hello again.

Noc- welcome back my man! So sorry to hear about the demise of your relationship - believe me I've been there on several occassions and feel your pain. I've always engaged in a ritual burning. I take some object that represents that relationship - a picture or something small (and nothing valuable - hell, i'm not stupid!) - and burn it in some open space. Watching the smoke lift and dissipate reminds me that these memories and the pain will also drift away. (of course I also usually do this when i'm almost blind drunk, so its not quite as poignant as it sounds).

Anyway - remember, we're here for you!!!

[noctuary]

Thanks for your replies, guys. I honestly thought that no one would care. Zero, the "ritual burning" is probably a good idea. I'm just... not ready to let go of anything just yet. Maybe in a couple of months. Why does it seem like this kind of shit always happens around the holidays? Most wonderful time of the year, my ass.

[crabapple]

Sorry to hear about this, but hey, try to get out and do a party tonight, socialize a little, that usually helps. Feel better!

[VampiricClown]

I'm sorry to hear that man, I know your pain. My girlfriend left me on Thanks Giving.....< Thanks a lot. lol.

But the best thing to do is move on. Things will get better, it takes awhile, but it does get better.

The main thing to keep in mind though, what you had before will remain nothing but memories. They fade overtime, but are never erased in whole. Just learn how to sit back and laugh at it all. You'll make it though, all of us here know you will. :)

[_____V_____]

Welcome back, N.

The other day I was checking out the Evil Dead remake thread and wondered where you were.

Sorry to hear bout the relationship fizzling out bro. When the wound is raw it is bound to hurt. Let Time heal it and you ll be fine in no time again.

Think of it in this way, "When one door closes, several others open." Just take some time out of your life and indulge in other activities to engage yourself, man. Let yourself back into the mainstream slowly. In time, all will change.

Here's wishing you the best that 2007 has to offer! :)

[Miss Olivia]

Thanks for your replies, guys. I honestly thought that no one would care. Zero, the "ritual burning" is probably a good idea. I'm just... not ready to let go of anything just yet. Maybe in a couple of months. Why does it seem like this kind of shit always happens around the holidays? Most wonderful time of the year, my ass.

I'm in the same boat right now. My marriage is ending, and he's being a selfish prick. Unfortunately, breakups do not bring out the best in people....you can tell yourself it's going to get better, and you don't need them, and anything else to make yourself feel better, but it still hurts. Especially when they take the car and leave you with two kids and no food in the house.

Sometimes I wonder why I even bother.

[_____V_____]

I'm in the same boat right now. My marriage is ending, and he's being a selfish prick. Unfortunately, breakups do not bring out the best in people....you can tell yourself it's going to get better, and you don't need them, and anything else to make yourself feel better, but it still hurts. Especially when they take the car and leave you with two kids and no food in the house.

Sometimes I wonder why I even bother.



ugh...sorry to hear that D. I dont know what to say...:(

Seems like 2007 has more questions to offer than answers to some of us.

[bloodrayne]

Holy COW!...Okay, I'm sure none of you have noticed this (because only I would...Sorry for being so lame) BUT...

Taurus is entering a 'change' phase...A period of 'death and rebirth'...EVERY person in this thread who is going through this RIGHT now, is a TAURUS:eek:

BTW...Stupid Shane is a Taurus, too...And...Seri finally told him that she was permanently finished with him about 3 weeks ago...


I'm sorry that all I have is this information (which I'm sure is quite irrelevant to most people), instead of some words of wisdom or comfort...I really AM terrible at the consoling thing, I never know what to do or say...BUT, I figured I could at LEAST pass on this info (because it's all I've got)...And if it means ANYTHING to any of you, this phase usually turns out to be a VERY good thing...Don't forget about the 'rebirth' part...Think of the Phoenix

I feel really bad for you guys...I seriously wish I could do something...Break ups are ESPECIALLY difficult for Tauruses (and Cancers, Geminis and Libras)...:(

[Posher778]

Is something bad going to happen to the capricorns soon =(

[bloodrayne]

Is something bad going to happen to the capricorns soon =(Not that I'm aware of, Sweetheart

Capricorns have a hard enough time just BEING Capricorns :p

Okay, I'm not trying to be mean or anything, it's just that Capricorns are ALWAYS climbing (like the mountain goat), so that no matter what position they reach (socially, financially, personally, or in just about any way you can think of), they never feel like they're good enough, they just can't get 'comfortable' and relax, they always feel like they have to be/do/have MORE...That just seems so very stressful to me, I couldn't live that way...I'd probably blow a gasket or something :D

[Posher778]

Not that I'm aware of, Sweetheart

Capricorns have a hard enough time just BEING Capricorns :p

Okay, I'm not trying to be mean or anything, it's just that Capricorns are ALWAYS climbing (like the mountain goat), so that no matter what position they reach (socially, financially, personally, or in just about any way you can think of), they never feel like they're good enough, they just can't get 'comfortable' and relax, they always feel like they have to be/do/have MORE...That just seems so very stressful to me, I couldn't live that way...I'd probably blow a gasket or something :D

I must not be a capricorn, lol. Because i'm on rock bottom, and fine with it.

[bloodrayne]

I must not be a capricorn, lol. Because i'm on rock bottom, and fine with it.Whenever someone says something like this, I must investigate...Thanks a lot :p


This is what I discovered:

1) Your birthday is on the LAST day of Capricorn, it's the day before Aquarius (some sources say that Capricorn ends on the 19th, some say the 20th, you may have noticed that. It depends on the source. MY books (the good ones ;)) say the 19th)...

Cusp signs cause anomalies, usually giving someone traits from the signs on BOTH sides, or sometimes ONLY one side or the other (even if the 'other' wasn't necessarily the one they were born under), and as far as being on the cusp goes, well YOU are as close as someone could possibly get to the cusp

Ask your mother what your due date was, that can help to clear things up a little, too...Maybe you were born a little early

Aquarius is NOT like Capricorn as far as the 'climbing' thing goes...Aquarius is intellectually motivated rather than emotionally or physically...So, it's not very difficult for an Aquarius to be comfortable...The driving force behind Aquarius is knowledge...They have to find out everything they can about something they're interested in (like Scorpio does, except that Aquarius can actually RETAIN (and prefers to) the knowledge they acquire, while Scorpio can forget it (because it's no longer of any use to them so they just don't feel they 'need' it) as soon as they lose interest in the subject, which is usually as soon as they've found out everything about it...It's kinda like solving a mystery then moving on to the next one, that's just Scorpio)

Like Scorpio, Aquarius has to know 'why things are', 'how things work', etcetera...They love to take things apart and put them back together again...They make excellent engineers, mechanics, detectives (especially Scorpios), psychiatrists and surgeons

2) You were born under a Scorpio moon...This doesn't matter when your due date was, the moon was IN Scorpio the day you were born and that's all that matters for that one...If your moon sign affects ANYTHING (sometimes it doesn't, depending on how strong your sun sign is), it will be your emotions...The moon controls our emotional/mental state...And THAT would explain your love for Horror, and something else that I won't mention (and that I don't know about you, and don't NEED to know about you), that's all I'm gonna say about THAT :D

Scorpios have no problem being comfortable in ANY situation...If a Scorpio DOES somehow become uncomfortable, they will fix/change/destroy/eliminate whatever is causing the discomfort, until they are comfortable again...Scorpio is a fixed sign...Scorpio does NOT like change


Either an Aquarius OR a Scorpio would say something like "i'm on rock bottom, and fine with it"...But, NOT a Capricorn :)

Interesting, huh?

[stubbornforgey]

I've been gone for quite some time, and I thought I'd make a thread explaining, if anyone cares. Just after Christmas, my girlfriend told me that she didn't love me anymore, and she was leaving. Since then I've pretty much been wandering around in a daze, in a black hole of depression. For the first time, this morning I woke up feeling as if I could finally rejoin the human race. I'm far from over it, but maybe I can start moving in that direction soon. Unfortunately, I've got two months before the lease is up on our apartment, so I get to rattle around here with our memories. Fun, huh? Anyway, I'm not dead, hello again.


hey welocme back Noc..
its good to see you..and huge hugs our friend

[Miss Olivia]

It wouldn't do any good....he would just divide like an amoeba.

That's oddly comforting, Rayne....maybe that stupid little voice in the back of my head will shut up for a while. You know, the one that sits back there and says, "You know it's all your FAULT, you know there's something wrong with YOU." Now I can blame it on my birth sign.
Any port in a storm, right?:p

[noctuary]

It wouldn't do any good....he would just divide like an amoeba.

That's oddly comforting, Rayne....maybe that stupid little voice in the back of my head will shut up for a while. You know, the one that sits back there and says, "You know it's all your FAULT, you know there's something wrong with YOU." Now I can blame it on my birth sign.
Any port in a storm, right?:p
I have the exact same thing. Even though I KNOW that I was a good boyfriend, and it's totally not my fault that she doesn't want to be with me, some part of me insists on telling me that it was my fault.

Anyway, I'd just like to say again that I really appreciate all the replies this has gotten. Believe it or not, it actually does help. Thanks.

Breaking news: she recently called and said she wanted to come over. She said that "maybe we could give it another shot."

I don't know what to think.

[bloodrayne]

I have the exact same thing. Even though I KNOW that I was a good boyfriend, and it's totally not my fault that she doesn't want to be with me, some part of me insists on telling me that it was my fault.

Anyway, I'd just like to say again that I really appreciate all the replies this has gotten. Believe it or not, it actually does help. Thanks.

Breaking news: she recently called and said she wanted to come over. She said that "maybe we could give it another shot."

I don't know what to think.If she's not a Virgo, just say "no" :D

[Miss Olivia]

Don't let her jerk your chain. I've had that problem with going back and forth for months now, and I finally just got sick of it. If you know that bad things are already happening, just let it be.
I think letting go is the hardest part, honestly. I know this needed to end, but there's always that part of yourself you have to fight to let go. We tend to cling to any scrap of hope when we feel like we're drowning.....and then we learn to float.
They float, Georgie. They float. And when you're down here with us...YOU'LL...FLOAT....TOO!!!!!

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[VampiricClown]

Holy COW!...Okay, I'm sure none of you have noticed this (because only I would...Sorry for being so lame) BUT...

Taurus is entering a 'change' phase...A period of 'death and rebirth'...EVERY person in this thread who is going through this RIGHT now, is a TAURUS:eek:

BTW...Stupid Shane is a Taurus, too...And...Seri finally told him that she was permanently finished with him about 3 weeks ago...


I'm sorry that all I have is this information (which I'm sure is quite irrelevant to most people), instead of some words of wisdom or comfort...I really AM terrible at the consoling thing, I never know what to do or say...BUT, I figured I could at LEAST pass on this info (because it's all I've got)...And if it means ANYTHING to any of you, this phase usually turns out to be a VERY good thing...Don't forget about the 'rebirth' part...Think of the Phoenix

I feel really bad for you guys...I seriously wish I could do something...Break ups are ESPECIALLY difficult for Tauruses (and Cancers, Geminis and Libras)...:(

Oh great....And I'm a taurus.

[stubbornforgey]

LOL..a gemini with a scorpion
this is going to be funny as hell :D

[bloodrayne]

LOL..a gemini with a scorpion
this is going to be funny as hell :DOh, your guy is a Scorpio?...No wonder you're always going on about how sexy he is :p

but...uhh...You DO know that you're gonna drive him insane, right?

:D

[crabapple]

Oh, I don't believe in all that astronomy stuff.

I mean, I read it every day, but only for, uh, entertainment purposes. A guy'd have to be some kind of dopey nut to believe in that stuff.

[slayer666]

Oh, I don't believe in all that astronomy stuff.

I hope you mean astrology rather than astronomy! Sorry, I couldn't resist.

Noc, you have many people here who can relate to what you are going through. In my case, the holiday was a 4th of July a few years ago, and the relationship was a marriage. Bitch caused me more pain than I thought possible and walked off with half of everything. The only bright spot is that no kids were involved. Anyway, my only advice is to give yourself some time to feel. It will get better, but for now, give yourself permission to acknowledge the loss and mourn it.

[stubbornforgey]

Oh, your guy is a Scorpio?...No wonder you're always going on about how sexy he is :p

but...uhh...You DO know that you're gonna drive him insane, right?

:D


too late..!!!!

he sums it all up in one word 'gah'

he has informed me that 'gah' is all he can come up with that covers
every possible cuss word in the book..LOL

[crabapple]

Yes, that "astronomy" thing was a joke. Ha ha!

I wanted to see if you got that. I was gonna say astragalus.

[Haunted]

Holy COW!...Okay, I'm sure none of you have noticed this (because only I would...Sorry for being so lame) BUT...

Taurus is entering a 'change' phase...A period of 'death and rebirth'...EVERY person in this thread who is going through this RIGHT now, is a TAURUS:eek:

BTW...Stupid Shane is a Taurus, too...And...Seri finally told him that she was permanently finished with him about 3 weeks ago...


I'm sorry that all I have is this information (which I'm sure is quite irrelevant to most people), instead of some words of wisdom or comfort...I really AM terrible at the consoling thing, I never know what to do or say...BUT, I figured I could at LEAST pass on this info (because it's all I've got)...And if it means ANYTHING to any of you, this phase usually turns out to be a VERY good thing...Don't forget about the 'rebirth' part...Think of the Phoenix

I feel really bad for you guys...I seriously wish I could do something...Break ups are ESPECIALLY difficult for Tauruses (and Cancers, Geminis and Libras)...:(

I've read all of your posts, and I must say that your astrological knowledge astounds me. You knew that.

Good goddamn thing I'm an Aries with a Scorpio rising (born under a full moon). I'm also a Horse in the Chinese Zodiac, Mesha in the Vedic astrological system, and I can't recall the Mayan stuff, but what the hey.

[stubbornforgey]

all i know is this

when the mooooooooooooooon is in the 7th house
and jupiter aligns with marsssssss
and peaceeeeeeee (insert the words here)
and loveeeeeeeee wil 'something the sun
this is the dawing of the age of Aquarius,,
age of Aquariussssssssssss
Aquariusssssssss
Aquariusssssssss..
'waves her hands in the air' :o

[Posher778]

Hey BloodRayne, my girlfriend's birthday is april 10th, what does that make her? And is this going to bad with us? hhah