My boyfriend REPLACED me with HIS 16-year OLD textmate

[Empress_Of_Drac]

Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE. I wish I was ONLY DREAMING. The SAD thing is THE girl HE replaced ME became one of my textmates since she's also one of the MEMBERS of our INDIE clan. She's the VERY person who TOLD me that HE is her BOYFRIEND...yeah boyfriend in TEXT(and they are just 1 week in their FRIGGIN' relationship). I was FRIGGIN' dumbfounded. I've BEEN very FAITHFUL to HIM in our almost 11 mos. of relationship. So LOYAL and FAITHFUL that sometimes I don't even bother to LOOK if there's any GOOD Looking MALES in my surroundings. It hit me HARD right DOWN my FACE. It's LIKE am being lambasted by a HARD baseball bat. The INTENSITY is too STRONG I hallucinated that I passed out. It's TOO painful to KNOW that the MAN you LOVE has replaced you that EASILY...so easy...and the worst thing IS...he replaced ME with a 16-year old girl...barely a high school STUDENT who he just happened to KNOW only in TEXT. It's TOO painful...too HARD to ACCEPT that AFTER all the HARDSHIPS and SACRIFICES I did it just came down to THIS.

The girl became a FRIEND of MINE in TEXT. She EVEN greeted ME in HER GMs(general messages) for the WHOLE CLAN. In HER FRIGGIN' greetings she always greet somebody and she CALLED him "DEAR"...and for ALL I know the GUY that she's been calling "DEAR" is MY EMPEROR. It's too PAINFUL that I just came to REALIZE all this FRIGGIN' stuff NOW. As she BECAME my textmate FRIEND I shared to HER the pains I went THROUGH in my CURRENT relationship BUT FOR all I KNOW she's been the GIRL in that FRIGGIN' third PARTY. It's TOO painful! I've BEEN crying for almost three WEEKS now. And it just DOWNED to me WHY HE seems to pick quarrels with ME and why it's TOO hard for ME to PLEASE him. He's BEEN playing at MY back for A WEEK. I AM BETRAYED.

[Zero]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE.

EoD - it sounds trite but its true: you are better off without him and its his loss. Besides anyone who wants to spend time with a 16year old (and who is not himself a 16 year old) - has a screw loose!

[Posher778]

summon pumpkinhead on his sorry ass.

[Yellow Jacket]

He's an asshole! Just forget about him! I know it's hard, but over time, you'll find Mr. Right and you can then see your ex depressed, trying to win you back, knowing he did the wrong thing. But, by then, you shouldn't care because no matter how sweet he is the second time around, you know what he did to you before and he'll just do it again. Hope you feel better!

[Empress_Of_Drac]

It's TOO painful since my LOVE for HIM is STILL here. It doesn't vanish to the fact that HE's BETRAYING ME. Am stupid and a FOOL.

[Yellow Jacket]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
It's TOO painful since my LOVE for HIM is STILL here. It doesn't vanish to the fact that HE's BETRAYING ME. Am stupid and a FOOL.

True, and I'm not trying to tell you to just forget about him like that (though that's how it came out. Sorry.). I'm just saying try to do other things than just cry over him. I've been in this position before too (I'm a guy, but it still does have the same effect) and I'll admit it. It hurt for the longest of time. I never thought that I'd get over it. Sometimes I still think about her. But, overtime, I've grown out of her and my love for her and have moved on. Sure, the pain will stay with you forever, but it'll just lessen and lessen overtime.

[VampiricClown]

And every girl that I tell "I Hate Males", they act all weird towards me. This is one reason I have no male friends. I don't want to be caught up in all of their stupid "cheating" antics.

Empress, My apologies for your guy. People who do that kind of thing in relationships are dumb. One of my girlfriends dumped me for an ex boyfriend that is "illegal" for her to be with. And another dumped me because I'm NOT a pervert. :confused: Those were the only two exceptions, but all of my other relationships....I was cheated on.

I'm sorry to say, but the pain you're feeling for him, won't go away. Even the love you feel for him is going to be around for awhile no matter what you or him either one, do. It will decrease overtime as YJ said, but it will never completley heal. :(

The best thing you can do right now, is find friends to talk to about it. I'm here if you need to talk, just IM me. And I'm sure some of the other's here would be willing to talk to you about it.

You may also try finding something else to do to keep your mind busy.

[Despare]

11 mos. in is a better time to find out than 2 years...
Not that it makes it any easier.

[stubbornforgey]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE. I wish I was ONLY DREAMING. The SAD thing is THE girl HE replaced ME became one of my textmates since she's also one of the MEMBERS of our INDIE clan. She's the VERY person who TOLD me that HE is her BOYFRIEND...yeah boyfriend in TEXT(and they are just 1 week in their FRIGGIN' relationship). I was FRIGGIN' dumbfounded. I've BEEN very FAITHFUL to HIM in our almost 11 mos. of relationship. So LOYAL and FAITHFUL that sometimes I don't even bother to LOOK if there's any GOOD Looking MALES in my surroundings. It hit me HARD right DOWN my FACE. It's LIKE am being lambasted by a HARD baseball bat. The INTENSITY is too STRONG I hallucinated that I passed out. It's TOO painful to KNOW that the MAN you LOVE has replaced you that EASILY...so easy...and the worst thing IS...he replaced ME with a 16-year old girl...barely a high school STUDENT who he just happened to KNOW only in TEXT. It's TOO painful...too HARD to ACCEPT that AFTER all the HARDSHIPS and SACRIFICES I did it just came down to THIS.

The girl became a FRIEND of MINE in TEXT. She EVEN greeted ME in HER GMs(general messages) for the WHOLE CLAN. In HER FRIGGIN' greetings she always greet somebody and she CALLED him "DEAR"...and for ALL I know the GUY that she's been calling "DEAR" is MY EMPEROR. It's too PAINFUL that I just came to REALIZE all this FRIGGIN' stuff NOW. As she BECAME my textmate FRIEND I shared to HER the pains I went THROUGH in my CURRENT relationship BUT FOR all I KNOW she's been the GIRL in that FRIGGIN' third PARTY. It's TOO painful! I've BEEN crying for almost three WEEKS now. And it just DOWNED to me WHY HE seems to pick quarrels with ME and why it's TOO hard for ME to PLEASE him. He's BEEN playing at MY back for A WEEK. I AM BETRAYED.

I almost cried when i read this..
I have been there and yes it hurts like a fucker..
When you think that after all the years
you have gotten over the pain ..but it keeps resurfacing .
My 1st husband left me for my bestfreind.
The dumbest thing about all of this ..she lived miles away and moved to aux..so i invited her to live with us (1st mistake) till she settled..
Asked him to get her a job at his company (2nd mistake).
The fun we shared..the secrets we shared..
3rd mistake ..was being too fuckin vulnerable.
I have never healed , despite my happy life now..ithe betrayal has wounded me so much..to date..i have enver befreinded another female in r/l.
When one tries to get close..i simply chase them away.
When one asks questions about my husband..I tell them to mind thier own fucking business.
Your better off ..
don't let that little slut know how hard your taking it as it gives her more power over you..shes loving every minute of your pain.
Start looking at other men..start looking for somebody else once you start to heal.
G.L and keep your head up girl.

[Empress_Of_Drac]

Originally posted by stubbornforgey
I almost cried when i read this..
I have been there and yes it hurts like a fucker..
When you think that after all the years
you have gotten over the pain ..but it keeps resurfacing .
My 1st husband left me for my bestfreind.
The dumbest thing about all of this ..she lived miles away and moved to aux..so i invited her to live with us (1st mistake) till she settled..
Asked him to get her a job at his company (2nd mistake).
The fun we shared..the secrets we shared..
3rd mistake ..was being too fuckin vulnerable.
I have never healed , despite my happy life now..ithe betrayal has wounded me so much..to date..i have enver befreinded another female in r/l.
When one tries to get close..i simply chase them away.
When one asks questions about my husband..I tell them to mind thier own fucking business.
Your better off ..
don't let that little slut know how hard your taking it as it gives her more power over you..shes loving every minute of your pain.
Start looking at other men..start looking for somebody else once you start to heal.
G.L and keep your head up girl.

When I woke UP this MORNIN I felt LIKE I don't feel Anything BUT when I read all YOUR replies it seems LIKE I wanted to burst OUT crying AGAIN. Yeah, I hold my HEAD high. I even TRIED to congratulate THEM. Can YOU believe THAT? I tried to REACH to all THE clan MEMBERS that I'M no LOSER...that it's the TWO of them and NOT me. The PAIN is still HERE...too MUCH pain I don't KNOW if I can work NOW in the office without CRYING before my monitor. Pack that sheet!

[stubbornforgey]

You mention clan..
Whats do you play..??

At least the clan members will be able to see just how much of a little tramp this girl is.

[Empress_Of_Drac]

Originally posted by stubbornforgey
You mention clan..
Whats do you play..??

At least the clan members will be able to see just how much of a little tramp this girl is.

Yeah, It's a CLAN that supports independent local MUSIC that's why it's called Indie Clan. Well, I don't HATE her. I pity HER.

[stubbornforgey]

ahh ok..was just wondering..
This will be all exciting for her cos shes just young ..she'll now think shes irreplaceable ..her age will show through.

[GorePhobia]

thats messed up

I hate guys that do that shit.

and by the way

not to sound like a dick but why is every other word in CAPS?

just curious

[RavageRitual]

Originally posted by GorePhobia


not to sound like a dick but why is every other word in CAPS?

just curious

I know what ya mean, ANNOYING!

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by RavageRitual
I know what ya mean, ANNOYING!

Come on guys. She's going through enough already. Don't add to the stress. You all know how I blow up when I go through some bullsh*t with a relationship.

[psiren]

HE'S the loser, you're a beautiful, loving girl and when he gets bored with his new conquest (or she goes and grabs somebody else's boyfriend) and tries to come back to you he'll feel real shitty when you walk away. don't give an inch; you're much better than that. my ex did something similar to me then decided he needed my counsel and now he realises what he's lost. be strong, Hon.

[Haunted]

The whole "caps" thing is to draw emphasis on specific words. It's easier than clicking on italics. I use it all the time.

Empress...

I don't know what to say, except that I've been there. That doesn't make me qualified to say that I know how you feel, because I don't. However, I can tell you that you're too important to let two flecks of shit get you down. If they're going to pull that shit with you, then they don't deserve you as a friend or a lover.

The world is full of much more interesting and likeable people that would and will treat you with the respect that you deserve. However, you've got some wounds to heal before you meet them.

This might sting quite smartly for a little while, but soon your going to be waking up to less and less pain.

Give us girls here at HDC a shout out whenever you need to! Here for you, honey.

Remember, the key to being a Vampire is confidence.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Empress...

I'm so sorry to hear about this...I know it hurts like hell...but you WILL get through it. If he's interested in 16 year old girls, you should be laughing at him....not crying over him, you know? Seriously...you were probably just too much woman for him;)...he's just looking for a little girl to manipulate. What a tool.

I know you're angry and upset...and very hurt...but trust me, in time you'll realize you're better off...and you'll laugh about this...YOU WILL...b/c he'll be begging for you to come back to him, and you'll be with a fantastic new guy who treats you right :) And there ARE fantastic guys out there...don't let one jerk let you change your mind about the male species ;) You have NO REASON to try and congratulate them!!! Screw them...it won't last...if he cheated on you, he'll cheat on her...and they'll both continue to be the miserable bastards they are ;)

Everyone's here for you sweetheart.

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by MoonLit Meadow
...if he cheated on you, he'll cheat on her...

Or she'll cheat on him.

"Never leave the one you love, for the one you like, for they will leave you for the one they love."

It'll get back around to him. It'll bite him on the A** soon enough.

[Elvis_Christ]

I am going to cry a river

[Elvis_Christ]

Rif will take you out on a date

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by trippin_the_rif
LOL, thanks for the boost.

Ahhhh nope I'll leave that one its too easy. Feels like a trap!

[Soloman Kane]

Being sixteen this isn't supposed to hurt as much but heres my thinking about it. It hurts more alot more. There aren't any words that are going to make it any easier but there will be another guy. Forget about the pain but learn the lesson well. When that other guy comes into your life then remember this. Each relationship is a separate piece in a puzzle called your life. If you didn't have this experiance then you wouldn't have the wisdom to know the next time. He's the loser not you. Theres going to be other hurts in your life. I can't promise you that there won't be. What I can promise you is that you'll be stronger now to face those things in your life when they come along. Your a smart girl & from what I've read a good person. There are plenty of people in your life who care about you. He's not one of them & neither is this other little bitch. My best too you & be strong. The pain will go away but the wisdom will make you alot stronger. :( Believe me I've been there & although I don't know how YOU feel I know it was shitty when it happened to me when I was your age. All my best Drac.. Eric

[Spallalala]

ok.. I gotta get this right before I say anything on it..
Your guy was sending text messages back and forth from a chick? uh..And have they ever met in person and done anything?

[PR3SSUR3]

My boyfriend REPLACED me with HIS 16-year OLD textmate

>snigger!<

;)

[Haunted]

Some of yous guys is soooo mean!

One day... and it will come, you're going to be in a place where you're in a lot of emotional pain from a break-up. Lost and alone, you're going to be looking for some one to talk to, some one to listen, and I hope, because you're so cruel now, that there will be no one. No one will want to hear your sorrows.

How about that?

[Elvis_Christ]

lost and alone? never!
http://image.blog.livedoor.jp/apricot_australia/imgs/5/f/5f152e65.jpg

[Haunted]

But beer has sedative qualities, right? So if you're totally depressed and you get shit-faced not only are your inhibitions totally down, but you're also running the risk of becoming even more depressed. Statistically, a lot of suicides occur while the person is under the influence.

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by Haunted
Some of yous guys is soooo mean!

One day... and it will come, you're going to be in a place where you're in a lot of emotional pain from a break-up. Lost and alone, you're going to be looking for some one to talk to, some one to listen, and I hope, because you're so cruel now, that there will be no one. No one will want to hear your sorrows.

How about that?

You're right Haunted.....I know from experience....:(

[Kreech]

I just read this for the first time. Ouch. I can empathize (though, not with the text thing)

As for the drinking, i tried that out not too long ago. It actualy works... but only while you're drunk. And even then you just feel a sort of despicable self-righteous pitty.

The one thing that did work for me (and i know it's cliche` but i bloody well adore the philosophy) is "there's plenty more fish in the sea."

It's true too. Plenty of better guys and gals in the whole wide world that will astound you and open you up to new things and wonderful times. Be a strong individual and live for yourself.

I guess that's my bit. Hope it helped.

[ItsAlive75]

Dunno if this has been asked yet, but

What the fuck is a "textmate"?

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
Dunno if this has been asked yet, but

What the fuck is a "textmate"?

lol, I'm not sure what she's calling a "textmate", but if you ask me, it's someone I've met online or whatever and are friends with them and just text them with my phone. Some of my friends call their "Cyber-sex" friends textmates. But, don't ask me, because my opinions or answer's never matter or count.:cool:

[Haunted]

What in the hell are you on about, VC?? Of course your opinions matter and count. Are you feeling blue these days? Here's what I suggest: take a break from your regular music and listen to Miles Davis and John Coltraine (easiest to find). It'll inspire you to put some creativity into your sadness. Try Miles Davis' "Some Kind of Blue" and "Bitches' Brew." Most things by John Coltrain will count. On "Kind of Blue" John and Miles team up.

Get yourself a glass of whiskey, straight, just one glass. (Don't want to send yourself hurling into a state of self pitty). Put on some GOOD jazz, (not that Kenny G shit) get some paper and your favorite pen, and let the words flow. It always makes me feel better.

Try it. Broaden thy scope a bit, lad!

Oh...

Miles Davis: Master of the trumpet
John Coltrain: Master of the saxophone

You could also throw in a little Nina Simone into the mix.
Mood Indigo
Since I Fell for You
I Put a Spell on You
Ne Me Quitte Pas (Don't Leave Me en francais... in fact the whole song is in French, but it's beautiful)
House of the Rising Sun (Her version is SOOOOO much better, I swear it!)
Blues on Purpose
Trouble in Mind (Actually better than the Janice Joplin version)

Oh yeah... forgot one... Don't Smoke in Bed. Great song. She does a kick ass version too.

If that doesn't work, listen to The Dead Milkmen:
Life is Shit
The Thing that only Eats Hippies
Stuart
The Bleach Boys
Bitchin' Camaro
I Walk the Thinnest Line
Bad Party
Two Feet Off the Ground
Methodist Coloring Book

Funny stuff.

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by Haunted
What in the hell are you on about, VC?? Of course your opinions matter and count. Are you feeling blue these days? Here's what I suggest: take a break from your regular music and listen to Miles Davis and John Coltraine (easiest to find). It'll inspire you to put some creativity into your sadness. Try Miles Davis' "Some Kind of Blue" and "Bitches' Brew." Most things by John Coltrain will count. On "Kind of Blue" John and Miles team up.

Get yourself a glass of whiskey, straight, just one glass. (Don't want to send yourself hurling into a state of self pitty). Put on some GOOD jazz, (not that Kenny G shit) get some paper and your favorite pen, and let the words flow. It always makes me feel better.

Try it. Broaden thy scope a bit, lad!

Oh...

Miles Davis: Master of the trumpet
John Coltrain: Master of the saxophone

You could also throw in a little Nina Simone into the mix.
Mood Indigo
Since I Fell for You
I Put a Spell on You
Ne Me Quitte Pas (Don't Leave Me en francais... in fact the whole song is in French, but it's beautiful)
House of the Rising Sun (Her version is SOOOOO much better, I swear it!)
Blues on Purpose
Trouble in Mind (Actually better than the Janice Joplin version)

Oh yeah... forgot one... Don't Smoke in Bed. Great song. She does a kick ass version too.

If that doesn't work, listen to The Dead Milkmen:
Life is Shit
The Thing that only Eats Hippies
Stuart
The Bleach Boys
Bitchin' Camaro
I Walk the Thinnest Line
Bad Party
Two Feet Off the Ground
Methodist Coloring Book

Funny stuff.

Whoa, lol. Who said I'm sad? I put a smilie after what I wrote. A happy one at that. lol, Thanks for the advice though. :)

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by Haunted
But beer has sedative qualities, right? So if you're totally depressed and you get shit-faced not only are your inhibitions totally down, but you're also running the risk of becoming even more depressed. Statistically, a lot of suicides occur while the person is under the influence.

Real Niggas Don't Die

[Haunted]

Right-o

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by Haunted
Right-o

Word :D

[sinistar]

For Davis: Bitches Brew... that's the best. I'm gonna pull out that CD soon in fact.. it's been a while

and make sure it's quality whiskey... not that bottled urine with the Black Velvet label.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Haunted
[B]What in the hell are you on about, VC?? Of course your opinions matter and count. Are you feeling blue these days? Here's what I suggest: take a break from your regular music and listen to Miles Davis and John Coltraine (easiest to find). It'll inspire you to put some creativity into your sadness. Try Miles Davis' "Some Kind of Blue" and "Bitches' Brew." Most things by John Coltrain will count. On "Kind of Blue" John and Miles team up.