how do u heal a broken heart?

[Nana_baby]

if you hate for so long is it posible to love again?

[zomb5150]

Sounds to Me like somebody needs a hug.
My door is always open.:)

[VampiricClown]

Yes, it is possible. But it also depends on how long as you've said, hated, as to how long it will be before you can love or even like someone again. And uhhhhh...... I hate most everyone. So....yeah.

[filmmaker2]

Well, first off, don't be concerned if the therapy isn't effective immediately; just keep at it. A broken heart does not just go away poof like that. They usually take MINIMUM 2 weeks, can sometimes take a great deal longer but you can try for 2 weeks if you really work at it.

You need to talk to friends about it, and only the good supportive friends. Don't talk about it with people who have an especially mean or cruel nature, they may say things that will depress you a lot more.

Watch a lot of movies, particularly funny ones, but mix in a violent one here and there, like Friday the 13th. Old movies that take you completely away to another time also can help.

Drink orange juice at least once a day when recovering from heartache.

Go out and see the world, hang out with people outdoors.

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by filmmaker2
Well, first off, don't be concerned if the therapy isn't effective immediately; just keep at it. A broken heart does not just go away poof like that. They usually take MINIMUM 2 weeks, can sometimes take a great deal longer but you can try for 2 weeks if you really work at it.

Watch a lot of movies, particularly funny ones, but mix in a violent one here and there, like Friday the 13th. Old movies that take you completely away to another time also can help.


2 weeks!? It took me like 6 month's to get over a 2 month relationship:eek:

Funny movies, yes.
Mushy movies, no.
And violent movies may wind up putting you in a mood to be violent and hurt yourself or others.

[Haunted]

I hate a person. I can't help it. It's a natural reaction to the bullshit they caused in my life. I tried to stop them, but they proceeded to go forth into pissing me off beyond repair.

Try not to hate. It really isn't healthy, and I am speaking from experience. When you hate, you automatically fill the requirements for being jaded. It's very hard to love and to trust someone if you're completely jaded.

"Try just a little bit harder," as Janice Joplin sang. Try to open the windows of your heart and let a little moonlight awaken you. You might be surprised at the hapiness that you find.

Also, note that I never believe in taking my own advice. That would make my life easier, and I can't deal with that.:p

[filmmaker2]

Originally posted by VampiricClown
2 weeks!? It took me like 6 month's to get over a 2 month relationship:eek:


Well, that 2 weeks was a suggested minimum...it CAN take a lot longer (oh, I've been there, too!), depending on so many factors...how hard you fell in the first place, and how hard you're trying to get over it, etc.

[The STE]

well, whatever you do, don't just write the whole situation off and deny any sort of closure, turning to chronic insomnia and sweet sweet painkillers because Vicodin is like mana from heaven.

...what was the question?

[filmmaker2]

Oh and I forgot to mention: BEWARE YOUR OWN FEELINGS! KONG fell in love too and it fucked him up, but good! You should learn to have a healthy fear of your emotions. I'm sorry but this post doesn't make any sense, please disregard it.

[The_Return]

My advice: find someone to talk to. Tell them everything, confide in them your heart and soul. I always feel better after talking to a certain friend of mine, and hopefully you can find someone like her.

[cheebacheeba]

Hate is pointless...only helps you crawl inside yourself and become a bitter person, gradually less and less receptive to what good there is in the world.
Just make sure you say what you gotta say to all parties involved, and move on. Whatever emotional "pain" you may be experiencing will become less significant with time, try not to let incidents in your past bias your opinions, or influence all your decisions towards your future, just let it guide you, and make you aware of others, yourself, and the knowledge that things don't always go as you'd hoped.
Learn to see potential, in both good and bad ways...become a more perceptive person. This may happen time and again, each time, a learning experience...whether or not you use it in a beneficial or detrimental way, is up to you.

[dewaholic]

I dunno if the place still exists, but instantvoodoo.com was excellent.

Edit: Yes it does still exist! http://instantvoodoo.com/default.asp?flash=true&
What to do there is pretty self explanatory. May be fun for ya & bring a smile to your face..... I know it is & does for me.

[newb]

Bee Gees


I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do.
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, noone said a word about the sorrow.

[filmmaker2]

This holiday season, I also contributed to good cheer by writing the short story below. It is not a happy story, in fact it is rather grim, but there is much insightful philosophical content that may help those who are dealing with an emotional crisis like heartache. The story follows directly:


****************************

"HOOTIE'S LITTLE RAT CHRISTMAS" by filmmaker2

Hootie is a lonely little rat on Christmas eve, so he goes into the kitchen and makes a gingerbread cake batter and then he calls Mr. Rat and Mrs. Frog and asks if they can come over and have supper with him but they say "NO" so he digs in the earth and invites a number of small bugs into his home to share the ginger cake but they get drunk and trash the place and take all his DVDs. That is my Christmas story, Thank You!!

[newb]

filmmaker ROCKS.....can i get a HOOYAAHH

[filmmaker2]

And I, also, feel the same way about Newb. He's okay!!!!!!!

[ItsAlive75]

Here's my advice, Nana.

Drink.

[scouse mac]

Talking is good, silence is bad. Time is the ultimate healer.

[Haunted]

Originally posted by cheebacheeba
Hate is pointless...only helps you crawl inside yourself and become a bitter person, gradually less and less receptive to what good there is in the world.
Just make sure you say what you gotta say to all parties involved, and move on. Whatever emotional "pain" you may be experiencing will become less significant with time, try not to let incidents in your past bias your opinions, or influence all your decisions towards your future, just let it guide you, and make you aware of others, yourself, and the knowledge that things don't always go as you'd hoped.
Learn to see potential, in both good and bad ways...become a more perceptive person. This may happen time and again, each time, a learning experience...whether or not you use it in a beneficial or detrimental way, is up to you.

Now I feel like a schmuck.:p Personally, I do know that hating someone is a waste of my valuable time. So, how do you come to terms with a very powerful state of being, in this case hate, when it's such a part of your life?

[Nana_baby]

~i look in the mirror
and scream in pain
i look at my mother
and scream in agony
now i look at you
and scream cuz ur all so happy~

I have hated my parents because of something that has happend to me and they were not there to help or save me.
Now i hate other people because i am bitter and my heart is broken and they only make it hurt worse.
I will hate people till my will is done or i die.

[Nana_baby]

ok stop complaining your the type of person who always has bad times in life and never the good. you take life for granted when there are other in the world with a much harder life then you.. look at you you have a nice house, parentss that love you and they do cause if they did not they would put you in a foster home or not feed you or buy you clothes:FTF
that is one reason why im misrable

[Angra]

Originally posted by Nana_baby

I will hate people till my will is done or i die.


You think that would help you?


Maybe you should try to get out and meet new people. If that´s hard for you to do, then here´s another idea. This might seem like a weird suggestion, but.....GET A JOB!!

Just a friendly tip.;) :)

[Nana_baby]

yea...uh huh....Angra ur no help i think i'll take my own advice....
where the hell is a knife or a gun

[Angra]

Originally posted by Nana_baby
yea...uh huh....Angra ur no help i think i'll take my own advice....
where the hell is a knife or a gun


No seriously, work/co-workers can be an excellent tool to help you get over stuff... and move on.

[Nana_baby]

yea uh huh

if you have forgotten kasper I AM ONLY 14!!!!!!!!!

i can't get a job b/c my parents are fukin protective

[Angra]

Originally posted by Nana_baby
yea uh huh

if you have forgotten kasper I AM ONLY 14!!!!!!!!!

i can't get a job b/c my parents are fukin protective


Alrighty then!!!

[Nana_baby]

well other than angra any one else wanna make me pissed?

[cheebacheeba]

So, how do you come to terms with a very powerful state of being, in this case hate, when it's such a part of your life?
Can't help you there...everyones got their own ways and means, so from my perspective, any more specific information based on these ideas would be useless. I only offer guidelines that I try to go by, how they're followed is as different from person to person as can be.

- B

[Nana_baby]

well im tired*yawns*

[cheebacheeba]

And you'll love every second of it.
Yeah, especially when they suck your balls, right buddy? RIGHT?!?
:D :D :D :D :D

[Nana_baby]

Originally posted by trippin_the_rif
LMFAO!!!!!!! Crazy fucker.:p
:rolleyes:

[Nana_baby]

no just pissing me off

[Nana_baby]

i do

[cheebacheeba]

i do
Yeah man, of course she reads 'em...she just doesn't UNDERSTAND them HAhaHAhaHAhahA

Take it easy, kid...

[Nana_baby]

bitch
i understand them
cheeb you can b a real bitch do u know that?

[cheebacheeba]

cheeb you can b a real bitch do u know that?
Really???
I had no idea...

[Soloman Kane]

Time heals all wounds as it flows but it does this by cutting & running raw & ragged the old.
Time moves away in the twilight of all days the moments of forgotten events into the dust. However all of your moments pass in a haze.
Death isn't the great equalizer time is. He haunts us each from moment to moment until the moment is gone & your love is forgotten.
All of them simply fades away with time... ;)

[cheebacheeba]

So put a quarter in yo' ass because you played yourself...because you played yourself...because you played yourself...

[Nana_baby]

well that was pointless

[Angra]

Originally posted by trippin_the_rif
Nothing against you Nana, I swear. I understand you're in a bad way right now. Sometimes a little laughter can help. And that's how I see the misfits around here acting. I think they're trying to cheer you up. I HOPE they are anyway.




Misfits...... Hrmf!!

[Nana_baby]

thnx angra

[Angra]

;) :)

[Nana_baby]

i <3 angra

[Zombee]

The hole will meand but will never completely heal.. there will always be a small bit of loss but its a loss you can eventually deal with and almost enjoy in a weird way.

[Nana_baby]

great i was happy till u posted!!!!

[bloodrayne]

I'm just gonna take the lazy way out and copy/paste an old comment that I made on this subject a long time ago:

First, it's a little bitter...After a while, upon reflection, it becomes bittersweet...Finally, in the end, it's nothing but sweet......That's how it was for ME anyway...I have no regrets...We learn from every experience in life...Good AND bad...It's all about transition and growth...The type of people we are, whether weak or strong, determines what we take from each experience, and what we leave behind...I am thankful for all that I have learned, and the person that I have become :)


And, while I'm at it...Here are some poems that I wrote a couple years ago, about relationships in general:


How it begins...

Internal Storm

You slipped inside my deep, dark cuts,
And sealed them up behind you,
You healed my wounds and filled me up,
Inside me is where I find you

I've considered all I've seen,
And all you represent,
In this little world called "Me",
You control the elements

Rain of blood, sweat and tears,
It all falls down around me,
I am drenched in both our fears,
Whenever you surround me

Soft warm wind blows my way,
From your precious lips,
Your sweet breath carries my name,
And sets my soul adrift

Can't get enough,
Makes my head spin,
Completely caught up,
In your whirlwind

I hear the thunder,
When my heart pounds,
Is it any wonder,
It's whenever you're around?

Bright white bursts of lightning,
When I close my eyes,
Brilliant flashes of your beauty,
Flooding my dark mind

So intense, such ferocity,
Yet comforting and warm,
Amazing how you came to be,
My soul's thunderstorm


How it ends...

Drowning In Darkness

I'm slowly slipping into the abyss,
Of broken hearts and stolen dreams,
Holding onto hope by my fingertips,
As my nails dig in, my faith screams

Each day you're not around,
Adds another heavy stone,
Cruelly pulling me down,
Reminding me that I'm alone

My fingernails dig deeper into faith,
As the weight of my sorrow drags me down,
Ripping and tearing like a rake,
All of the happiness that I had found

The harder I grasp, to try to hold on,
The more damage I create,
My hopeful dreams are almost gone,
Succumbing to this cruel fate

The flame is flickering,
About to be blown out,
I can hear the snickering,
Of the cold wind of doubt

It's getting darker,
Everything is faded,
Believing's so much harder,
As we become jaded

My shattered hope is screaming,
My broken heart is crying,
My tattered faith is bleeding,
My empty soul is dying


Then reality and acceptance hits...

Departing Angels

Angels are sent here, to rescue and to teach,
But, we can't expect them to hang around,
They will always be just beyond our reach,
As their feet never really touch the ground

We feel the pain as our angel departs,
Yet we must try not to weep,
What they give us, stays in our hearts,
But, an angel is never ours to keep

We mustn't mourn our lost serenity,
Instead we should feel blessed,
For the honor of touching such divinity,
When we deserve so much less

Be thankful for every minute,
Appreciate each day,
So you don't regret it,
When your angel goes away


But...What comes next?

That's up to you...

[Nana_baby]

thanx

[VampiricClown]

Originally posted by Zombee
The hole will meand but will never completely heal.. there will always be a small bit of loss but its a loss you can eventually deal with and almost enjoy in a weird way.

I hate to say this, but this is true. Even though I'm over my ex and love my new girlfriend very much, I do still think about when I was with my ex and it still hurts. That was over nine month's ago too.

Oh! And especially do NOT I repeat do NOT listen to any song that you listened to while you were with your ex. It will make you start remembering good or bad times and even the good times in the music feel bad.

You will get over it to a degree though. If you don't, you aren't human. And if it hurts even after a long while, it only means you're sane. So try too cheer up and move on with your life. It's not good to dwell on past feelings. You'll feel alot better when you move on. Don't try to forget the feelings and happiness you had before the heart break though. Sometimes it feels good to remember. :) Just don't get so far wrapped into the past that you forget to live.

[Nana_baby]

that my firend i won't do my ife i valued to some extent.

[stubbornforgey]

everybody has thier own healing time..
mine took 9 years

[Nana_baby]

I have 2 say....
when i need to talk you guys/girls are always there and i know 4 sure i am valued in life.I have some friends and you guys make me feel better and i thank you all 4 that.

[Nana_baby]

well itz 11:08 i am fuckin' hungry i have an issue if your best friend happens to be the biggest slut in the universe what do you do

[cheebacheeba]

i have an issue if your best friend happens to be the biggest slut in the universe what do you do
You slap her in the face, tell her to wake up to herself because girls like her only get two things
*Taken advantage of
*STDs
tell her to fix her ways, because you don't wanna be ashamed or embarrassed of the people you associate with, slap her once more, tell her you'll treat her as a friend, and with respect after she starts doing the same for herself, then walk away, and tell her to call you when she's not making a mockery of what a woman should be.
Glad to be of assistance.
- B

[Nana_baby]

okay number two
what do you do if your other best friend loves to piss you off and all you can do is cry and get pissed of and then you can only try to think of a way to stab him and try to ease the pain and cut your skin slow and steady and make sure you feel the pain to make sure that you are still alive and trhen when you tink all is lost you cut your arms in to little bits and still be alive although all you want to do is die and make everything go awya and not deal with any pain or grief

[cheebacheeba]

Honestly?
I'd say you were fucked in the head, and to seek help from someone that has more tolerance for this kind of bullshit than me.

[Nana_baby]

thanx ur a real help

[cheebacheeba]

Within my words lies the best advice I, or anyone, could, or should give you.
SEEK HELP
Don't run off at the mouth to me, either...does you no good.
I won't give you anger, pity, sorrow, or any such other attention to put towards your issues.

[Nana_baby]

i wasn't looking for that you fucker
i am just so fucking fustrated that i could kill

[newb]

http://www.enterprisegifts.com/images/cuckoo_clock_cuckooing_lg_nwm.gif

[Nana_baby]

hahahahahahahahahahahaha
thats not funny

[ItsAlive75]

How long should a "cheer up thread" actually go on for?

[newb]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
How long should a "cheer up thread" actually go on for?

Good point.....if ya ain't happy now...fuck off....your bringing us all down.




;)

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by trippin_the_rif
Of course I tend to date 5 to 8 years younger than myself, and that's a problem because the younger chicks are normally not ready for family business.

I'm 15 yrs younger than you and I'm married and have a baby. I guess I just have a lot older mentality than most people my age. Family life is what I've wanted for a long time.

[The STE]

How do you heal a broken heart? Listen to The Five Stairsteps! :D

[wood_elf_pansy]

Isn't it messed up that I shared a little bit of "dark" poetry and get all kinds of shit about me trying to kill myself from some guy and this chick actually says shes going to kill herself and people just say for her to get over it?

FUNNY SHIT.

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by trippin_the_rif
You are a memeber of a dying breed, elf. What planet do you come from and how much is the ticket for the flight?;) :p

:"> thanks, that's sweet.

The planet earth and sorry but the flight is all booked up.:p

[wood_elf_pansy]

Tennessee must suck...

[wood_elf_pansy]

I wanna go horseback riding!!!

[wood_elf_pansy]

i have a horse named Dusty Baily but she lives four hours away...:(

my grandpa has her

[wood_elf_pansy]

:eek:

[Marroe]

I think I feel a lil heartache myself

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by Marroe
I think I feel a lil heartache myself

don't be sad my poor little friend... lol... its ok.

[Marroe]

poor:(

[cheebacheeba]

and this chick actually says shes going to kill herself and people just say for her to get over it?
If you're in any way referring to my comments towards this person, I told her to get HELP...as I said, something anybody responsibly should do. I said I don't have a high tolerance for this kind of shit, and I don't hence referred her elsewhere. As far as I'm aware, there's no ACTUAL psychologists/psychiatrists on board here...which is again, why she was referred elsewhere.

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by cheebacheeba
If you're in any way referring to my comments towards this person, I told her to get HELP...as I said, something anybody responsibly should do. I said I don't have a high tolerance for this kind of shit, and I don't hence referred her elsewhere. As far as I'm aware, there's no ACTUAL psychologists/psychiatrists on board here...which is again, why she was referred elsewhere.

nope not your comments cheeba its all good.:)

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by Marroe
poor:(

its ok your not poor

(just broke, like me. just jesting)

[Marroe]

Originally posted by cheebacheeba
If you're in any way referring to my comments towards this person, I told her to get HELP...as I said, something anybody responsibly should do. I said I don't have a high tolerance for this kind of shit, and I don't hence referred her elsewhere. As far as I'm aware, there's no ACTUAL psychologists/psychiatrists on board here...which is again, why she was referred elsewhere. I think she just meant that people were jumping down her throat, and she didn't even say anything close to this. I think.

[cheebacheeba]

Eh, either way...no problems here.
I may be an asshole but I generally give sound and realistic advice, not everyone takes it, but hey.

[wood_elf_pansy]

if you give me advice i'll take it ok?

[cheebacheeba]

I think you should go eat some candy. It's GOOD for you.

[wood_elf_pansy]

that is exactly what i meant

[Marroe]

I want some fucking candy.

[wood_elf_pansy]

i want some........

b
double e
double r
u
n

beer run

[Marroe]

you seem drunk tonight.

[wood_elf_pansy]

just sooper tired and slap happy. this is how i get when im tired

[Nana_baby]

:rolleyes: i'll get a pic of my arm 2 show u that i was dead sirious. hell not even make-up can cover up the one cut:eek: Damn my arm hurts now:eek:

[stubbornforgey]

WTF..!!
your 14 yrs of age..????
the reason your cutting yourself is ..what???..!!
ah man..get off the comp..
i don't know where you are but..over here
12 yr olds have jobs delivering newspapers or stacking shelves in supermarkets..so yeah..
youth rates for them but at least its a job n they socialise.
As for the ' over protective parent thing'
if they were so protective then they would
keep a check on what and who you talk to
via the internet ..
not to mention see that your hurting/hurting yourself..
I know kids can do things to cover
shit up..but for fucks sakes..
this is ridiculous..
if its attention you seek or what ever..
GO AND TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!
or somebody ..a counsellor...
anybody..before you actually do cut ureself in the way its supposed to be done and actually hit the main artery.
And em telling you this..
'from a mother who has daughters'
I see that pic of your arm posted in the forum...em gonna hunt you down and..
hunt your address..and show it to your parents.'
This is not a laughing matter..
if your freind is causing you so much pain..
walk away..!!dump her..ignore her..!!
no excuses..no second glance..
its as simple as that. :confused:

[velvet kisses]

Originally posted by Nana_baby
if you hate for so long is it posible to love again?
yes it is but i wouldnt advise it. it always ends up in tears and theyre most likely to be urs.

[velvet kisses]

its as simple as that. :confused: [/B][/QUOTE]
no it eally isnt!

[stubbornforgey]

Originally posted by velvet kisses
its as simple as that. :confused:
no it eally isnt! [/B][/QUOTE]

yes it is..if you a tooth that causes you pain...
you get it pulled..
if somebody is causing you so much pain..
you dump them..its easy as hell.
If your going to let this person carry on treating you like shit..then you must shoulder some of the blame..by simply allowing it.
Friendship is as unconditional as true love..if its not ..then its only one sided..
wasting too much energy on this one person ..restricting her from actually going out there and meeting somebody else who would be more worthy.
Don't sell yourself short nanababy..
everybody deserves better ..doesnt matter who you are. :D