View Full Version : Is This REALLY An 'Obligation'?
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 08:49 AM
Have you guys ever felt like you HAD to do something, just because someone else wanted you to?
My mother has BEGGED me to go to an Astrology Class with her tonight...She insisted that Seri go, too...Neither of us WANT to go...But, we both know that it would piss her off if we refused...My mother REALLY wants to go, but she will not go alone...
I'm sure you guys have had to deal with some 'forced obligations', too....Do ya just grin and bear it, and tell yourself that it won't last long?...That's the only way I know how to deal with my mother......And Seri is REALLY pissed...
taylorsmommy
08-22-2005, 08:52 AM
All the time! But only for close friends and family. I just suck it up and keep repeating "It's not going to last forever".
filmmaker2
08-22-2005, 09:02 AM
I will sometimes do things like that. If it makes the person happier, and if it's a person I want to make happier, then sure.
But if it's some jerk I'm fed up with....well, to put it simply, no way, no how! Contrarywise!
Example: "Heyyyy, let's get together for lunch so I can psychologically abuse you and waste your time because I'm angry at the world because of something traumatic that happened to me when I was six, I am such a victim, boo hoo hoo, now surprise!, I will make you a victim too, because it supports the idea that I have power in my life, and in doing so I am also taking the role of my abuser in a futile effort to make myself feel better about what happened way back then, oh God I hate being meeeeeeee."
Response: "Sorry, I have booked the time to process my own childhood traumas. Go away."
Marroe
08-22-2005, 09:19 AM
I go to work everyday so I can buy food to keep myself alive... to make a few other people happy.
:)
Angra
08-22-2005, 09:25 AM
Originally posted by Marroe
I go to work everyday so I can buy food to keep myself alive... to make a few other people happy.
:)
Your parents?
Angra
08-22-2005, 09:29 AM
My "girlfriend" wanted to go camping in a tent this summer and i got my worst fear confirmed..... I´m NOT a happy camper.:(
Hated everything about it really...
allmykids
08-22-2005, 09:29 AM
God WELCOME to MY WORLD!!! It's Almost Daily.
Angra
08-22-2005, 09:34 AM
Originally posted by allmykids
God WELCOME to MY WORLD!!! It's Almost Daily.
Huh?? AMK, do you live in a tent?:confused:
allmykids
08-22-2005, 09:37 AM
Originally posted by Angra
Huh?? AMK, do you live in a tent?:confused:
I belive It's HELL!!
Angra
08-22-2005, 09:40 AM
Originally posted by allmykids
I belive It's HELL!!
And I belive YOU.:(
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 09:42 AM
Originally posted by Marroe
I go to work everyday so I can buy food to keep myself alive... to make a few other people happy.
:) Ah...But that's a REAL obligation...
zwoti
08-22-2005, 09:47 AM
Originally posted by bloodrayne
Have you guys ever felt like you HAD to do something, just because someone else wanted you to?
My mother has BEGGED me to go to an Astrology Class with her tonight...She insisted that Seri go, too...Neither of us WANT to go...But, we both know that it would piss her off if we refused...My mother REALLY wants to go, but she will not go alone...
I'm sure you guys have had to deal with some 'forced obligations', too....Do ya just grin and bear it, and tell yourself that it won't last long?...That's the only way I know how to deal with my mother......And Seri is REALLY pissed...
embarrass the hell out of her, she'll soon stop making you go out with her :p
allmykids
08-22-2005, 09:48 AM
Originally posted by Angra
My "girlfriend" wanted to go camping in a tent this summer and i got my worst fear confirmed..... I´m NOT a happy camper.:(
Hated everything about it really...
We must have posted at the same time. I guess I sould have been more Clear. I was talking to BR. LOL!! No Tent. BUT Hell on earth for sure!! My Past crap Guilts my into alot of Comitments. Very hard for me............I'm a Rebel. I get off on Shocking people. Wear what I want, Say what I feel and go against the grain. Keep it real. With me what you see is what you get. As a friend I will back you with my last breath. Ok Starting to Ramble........ Shuting up Now......................................
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 09:54 AM
Originally posted by zwoti
embarrass the hell out of her, she'll soon stop making you go out with her :p LOL...The way we (Seri and I) DRESS embarasses her....And she STILL begs us to go with her......Don't think that'll work...lol...But, thanks for the suggestion ;)
jenna26
08-22-2005, 10:54 AM
Originally posted by Angra
My "girlfriend" wanted to go camping in a tent this summer and i got my worst fear confirmed..... I´m NOT a happy camper.:(
Hated everything about it really...
I had an ex that loved to camp and I was talked into going a couple of times. Trust me, I am not a happy camper either...lol...I was pretty much miserable each time the entire time. I would be okay, except we have a lot of bugs and humidity in Georgia. :eek: Not pleasant.
I get roped into doing things I don't want to do all the time, for friends and family. I'm a pushover though...lol..I have always had trouble just saying no.
ChEEbA
08-22-2005, 10:57 AM
I go to work everyday so I can buy food to keep myself alive... to make a few other people happy.
Keep it up, you're doing a great job;)
- B
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 10:59 AM
Originally posted by jenna26
I get roped into doing things I don't want to do all the time, for friends and family. I'm a pushover though...lol..I have always had trouble just saying no. If you TRY to say "no" to my mother, she just gets MORE persistant and irritating....You CAN'T say "no" to my mother....Looks like 'grin and bear it' is my only option...
ChEEbA
08-22-2005, 11:01 AM
Yeah...there's things I feel obligated to do...
Like make nice with my mothers latest in the long line of deadshit boyfriends, even though seeing the same old "signs" right from the word GO. Then I feel obligated to listen to her shit when they ditch her ass, as though I'm NOT thinking how much of an idiot she is... :rolleyes:
That's all anyone really ever pressures me into...knowledgeable of doing so, or not.
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 11:03 AM
Originally posted by ChEEbA
Like make nice with my mothers latest in the long line of deadshit boyfriends, even though seeing the same old "signs" right from the word GO. Then I feel obligated to listen to her shit when they ditch her ass, as though I'm NOT thinking how much of an idiot she is... :rolleyes:
That's all anyone really ever pressures me into...knowledgeable of doing so, or not. Well...At least I don't have to deal with THAT.....My mother can't stand men...
jenna26
08-22-2005, 11:04 AM
Originally posted by bloodrayne
If you TRY to say "no" to my mother, she just gets MORE persistant and irritating....You CAN'T say "no" to my mother....Looks like 'grin and bear it' is my only option...
Funny, my mother is exactly the same way. Actually she just doesn't hear the word no....ever....LOL. Selective hearing ya know? ;)
Angra
08-22-2005, 11:20 AM
Originally posted by jenna26
I had an ex that loved to camp and I was talked into going a couple of times. Trust me, I am not a happy camper either...lol...I was pretty much miserable each time the entire time. I would be okay, except we have a lot of bugs and humidity in Georgia. :eek: Not pleasant.
We didn´t have insect problems.
I just hated to raise the tent, take it down, lie in it, the shared toilets, the shared bathrooms. I hated the climate inside the tent that was either too hot or when it rained it was......well..... Not dry. And most of all i hated the noise around us. One place we were lying next to a road where all campers had to walk/drive by and another place we were lying next to a small airport (7am-22pm) and a football field with some nice sprinklers that started in the middle of the night.... To me it was a living nightmare.
It might have been fun if i had been together with 5 party/drinking buddies. But i can´t recommend it to new couples who wants to spend a romantic vacation together. :(
ItsAlive75
08-22-2005, 11:27 AM
I live with 2 guys, but all the bills are under my name. The rent, the heat, the cable... all gotta get paid by me. Not because I don't trust them, I just said I'd do it cuz I'm the only one in our apt. with a truck.
So its a lot of shit added onto my plate of work and school.
bloodrayne
08-22-2005, 12:55 PM
Well...I gotta go 'do my time' now...She also wants to get there 45 minutes early "to get a good seat"...*sigh*....I'll catch you guys later...If I live through this....
Angra
08-22-2005, 12:58 PM
Originally posted by bloodrayne
Well...I gotta go 'do my time' now...She also wants to get there 45 minutes early "to get a good seat"...*sigh*....I'll catch you guys later...If I live through this....
Say hi from us and have fun! :D
Haunted
08-22-2005, 12:58 PM
My parents are the master brow beaters. I believe they hold the world title.
novakru
08-22-2005, 01:42 PM
I get looped into everything.
But,
Sometimes it turns into a pretty cool something.
Recently-
Had to go on a river tour recently---wooooohoo
But,I saw alligators 2 feet in front of me,piles of birds,a raccoon hanging so close from a branch I could have reached up and touched it.Learned about all the medicines that the Indians used from plants I see everyday.
So,go the astrology thing-you might see an alligator!!