Monogamy Unrealistic?

[MoonLit Meadow]

Just curious as to what everyone's thoughts are regarding the comments Kate Hudson made in this article....just kinda sat with me the wrong way...seems to me like she's sending kind of a wrong/bad message at the end of the article? R/O...

Kate Hudson says monogamy is tricky business – but she's still faithful to her hubby.

The Almost Famous Oscar nominee, hot on the promotional trail for her new thriller, The Skeleton Key, opines that marital fidelity isn't practical – though some folks can pull it off.

"I don't believe (monogamy) is realistic," Hudson, 26, tells TV's Access Hollywood. "But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen."

Hudson – who married Black Crowes singer Chris Robinson on Dec. 31, 2000, and welcomed their son, Ryder, Jan. 7, 2004 – was quick to add: "I will not disrespect my husband and stray."

Asked if she believes Robinson has remained true to her, Hudson answered: "If you focus your attention on that, then you are always wondering if your husband or men are out there cheating on you. ... If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught."

[taylorsmommy]

I'm a firm believer in monogamy. However, there are people who have difficulty with it (my ex for one). I believe if you get married, or make some kind of commitment (handfasting for example) to someone, they should be the only one for you.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by taylorsmommy
I'm a firm believer in monogamy. However, there are people who have difficulty with it (my ex for one). I believe if you get married, or make some kind of commitment (handfasting for example) to someone, they should be the only one for you.


I feel the same way TM. I understand that there are many people out there who have a problem committing to only one person..and that's fine. However, once you decide to make a vow to somebody and marry them, you should respect them and stay faithful to them.
If you know that you can't, you have no business getting married.

I'll also add that it just seems like she's giving him total permission to cheat...the fact that she's just like "Well, as long as I don't know what's going on, I don't care" it's like...WTF? ;)

[Marroe]

I have never cheated on anyone myself, if I feel like I'm straying from the person, I just cut it off. But I have left one relationship to persure another before. I HAVE been cheated on once, and I did stay with the guy for almost 2 years after that. Was I pissed? Of course...Was I hurt? Fuck yes I was...Did I hate him? NO...he was my boyfreind, not my husband.
People do the dating/courting thing for a reason...for most it's to find that ONE person. I have been in a few situations where I was with someone for a few years, thought they were that person, and it wasn't til after one of us strayed to someone else that we realized things weren't as great as we thought...and thank christ it happened that way, or I would have stayed in some pretty fucked up relationships. I can't say cheating is right in any way...as I've said, I break it off before it goes to that, but I can only REALLY expect monogamy from the person I marry...That's when it becomes a real issue, until then, I won't let anyone's foolin' around ruin my life. If they find someone they'd rather be with while they're with me, I know I'll find someone 100x better to me than they ever were.

Point is...if it's a boyfriend cheating on me, it sucks, but I can move on. If I ever do get married, that's a different story.

[Haunted]

I am a firm believer in monogamy. I won't have it any other way. If I get married I really hope that I would remain faithful. If my husband isn't, he's out the door. Likewise, if I'm married to someone, and Goddess forbid someone else comes along. I hope that I will be up front with my husband and either try couselling or seperation BEFORE carrying on with some extramarital affair.

My analysis of Kate's comments

1. Chris is cheating or has been, and he's gotten her snowed into believing it's okay.

2. Kate was a little to immature emotionally and intellectually to get married.

3. They have an open marriage.

Either way, that little boy is going to be the one to pay for her stupidity.

[ItsAlive75]

I've been in one open-ended relationship where we both could see other people while we together. But all that happened was she found someone and I didn't.

It's always easier for the girls...

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by Haunted
I am a firm believer in monogamy. I won't have it any other way. If I get married I really hope that I would remain faithful. If my husband isn't, he's out the door. Likewise, if I'm married to someone, and Goddess forbid someone else comes along. I hope that I will be up front with my husband and either try couselling or seperation BEFORE carrying on with some extramarital affair.

My analysis of Kate's comments

1. Chris is cheating or has been, and he's gotten her snowed into believing it's okay.

2. Kate was a little to immature emotionally and intellectually to get married.

3. They have an open marriage.

Either way, that little boy is going to be the one to pay for her stupidity.

I could not agree more.

Although I will say that for the male species it can be quite difficult at times, but that is really no excuse.

If me and my lady decide to call it quits one day then thats that. None of this sneaking around bullshit.

And I have a policy. Goes like this, I catch my lady with another guy, girl or whatever. The interloper gets asked one question. Did you know that she was involved in a serious relationship??

Answer NO get out of here and dont let me see your face again.

Answer Yes, prepare to reap the whirlwind my friend. Especially if its a guy. Its disrespectful and I aint having it.

[urgeok]

Originally posted by meetthecreeper
And I have a policy. Goes like this, I catch my lady with another guy, girl or whatever. The interloper gets asked one question. Did you know that she was involved in a serious relationship??


if i catch my wife with another girl, i'd have one question :

Can I join in, and if not, can i watch ?


i guess thats really 2 questions ..

[Marroe]

And I have a policy. Goes like this, I catch my lady with another guy, girl or whatever. The interloper gets asked one question. Did you know that she was involved in a serious relationship??

Answer NO get out of here and dont let me see your face again.

Answer Yes, prepare to reap the whirlwind my friend. Especially if its a guy. Its disrespectful and I aint having it. so lemme get this strait......Your girl would be in the clear? I mean SHE'S the one with you, not him.

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
I've been in one open-ended relationship where we both could see other people while we together. But all that happened was she found someone and I didn't.

It's always easier for the girls...

:D that sucks dude! and your right its way easier for girls to find someone. Guys manage fuck it up 9/10 times.

Monogamy is pretty important to me.... I don't see the point being with someone otherwise. I've been fucked over in the past and trust is very important to me these days.

[ItsAlive75]

Originally posted by Elvis_Christ
:D that sucks dude! and your right its way easier for girls to find someone. Guys manage fuck it up 9/10 times.

Monogamy is pretty important to me.... I don't see the point being with someone otherwise. I've been fucked over in the past and trust is very important to me these days.

Well for every girl there's 10 guys who wanna "court" her. They can afford to be picky.

I hear what you're saying, monogamy once was meaningful to me, until when my last girlfriend and I broke up, she told me she slept with her ex-boyfriend like, 3 days after we got together. So now I'm rather lenient on the whole "one gal for me" thing.

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
Well for every girl there's 10 guys who wanna "court" her. They can afford to be picky.



That'd be awesome..... I'd be too greedy if I was girl :p

[ItsAlive75]

Originally posted by Elvis_Christ
That'd be awesome..... I'd be too greedy if I was girl :p

Yeah... greedy bitches always wantin' more...

[jenna26]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
Yeah... greedy bitches always wantin' more...

LMAO!!! :p

Monagamy is important to me as well; been cheated on before and I know how that feels. I would never put someone else through that. And honestly, sex is not a good enough reason for me to hurt someone I love or someone that loves me. If I feel that attraction to someone else (seriously), and I am in a relationship, then it means I need to reconsider that relationship. I would never act upon it.

But it does seem to be hard for many people to commit to one person; it isn't for me. I have always desired that kind of commitment from someone else and have never really had it. Oh well.

[Elvis_Christ]

:rolleyes: *shakes head*

What a hunnydripper.

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
:( I'll be true to you always, baby.:D

Sure you will.....uh-huh.....while trying to talk all the other ladies out of their clothes.....I'm on to you, mister....:p

[Elvis_Christ]

....... that's terrible :D

You must smell really funny.

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by jenna26
Sure you will.....uh-huh.....while trying to talk all the other ladies out of their clothes.....I'm on to you, mister....:p

He.... he..... gave me the "bad touch" too.

Stay away from him I reckon :p

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
Looking at other naked women is not coinsidered infidelity. Would you be pissed at me for checking out a Playboy mag if we were in a monogomous realationship?

Looking at Playboy magazine....not infidelity....correct....;) And no, I wouldn't give a damn.

But say for instance, talking your sexy neighbor out of her robe (I have no idea if you have a sexy neighbor or not...I do... hehehe)? Well, something else is bound to happen there so.....:rolleyes:

[Elvis_Christ]

See you in court Mr Jackson!

:( I feel so...... dirty :(

[jenna26]

Originally posted by Elvis_Christ
He.... he..... gave me the "bad touch" too.

Stay away from him I reckon :p

LMFAO!!:p

Hellboy, you wicked man.....traumatized him for life I bet.....;) I just knew you were up to no good.

[Elvis_Christ]

Life will never be the same..... :(

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by hellboy
First off, I would never resort to that Desperate Husbands routine. I wouldnt need to if I were with you. You would be all I need to satisfy.

God loves a trier :rolleyes:

LOL

[jenna26]

Originally posted by Elvis_Christ
Life will never be the same..... :(

:( Poor guy.....need a hug? What am I saying? That physical contact would probably bring back bad memories. How about a cookie?:p

[Elvis_Christ]

Originally posted by jenna26
:( Poor guy.....need a hug? What am I saying? That physical contact would probably bring back bad memories. How about a cookie?:p

A hug and a cookie would be nice :)

LOL @ Hellboy

Is he always like that Jenna?

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
BRING BACK!!!!!! You're not funny.:mad:

Yes I am...I'm cute too....it's a gift and a curse....:p

[jenna26]

Originally posted by Elvis_Christ
A hug and a cookie would be nice :)

LOL @ Hellboy

Is he always like that Jenna?

Oh okay.....*gives Elvis_Christ a hug and a cookie* Better?:p

Always like what?:rolleyes: ;)

[Elvis_Christ]

I can't help if I'm easy on the eyes and fingers :p

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
Uhhhhhh...........there will be no physical actions occuring between that young lady and yourself. Not this day. Take the cookie!!! lol:p

Oops!!:rolleyes: :p Sorry about that....hehehehe....you wanna a hug too? LOL

[MoonLit Meadow]

AHOY my favorite thread pirates...ARRRRRRRR ;)

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
I'll PASS NOW!!!!! El, you can have her.

Um, excuse me?:p I was just trying to comfort him after your violation....;)

[MoonLit Meadow]

Why don't you kids make yourselves useful and come on over to site suggestions/questions....play some HORROR SCRAMBLERS. ;)

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
Hey there MM, welcome to tonights episode.:p PLEASE, NO BUTTER!!!!! I'm still wiping that shit out from behind my ears.:p

That's funny...I got all the butter off of me. And it only took one shower. I guess you're just not scrubbing hard enough! ;):p

[MisterSadistro]

If you can find someone who is commited to you, I'd say go with it. If not, then they were likely not for you in the first place. If you feel the need to "change" somthing about them, they are not for you (and vice versa). Masturbate a lot and try not to worry about it too much. People generally suck as a species.
CK

[jenna26]

Originally posted by MisterSadistro
If you can find someone who is commited to you, I'd say go with it. If not, then they were likely not for you in the first place. If you feel the need to "change" somthing about them, they are not for you (and vice versa). Masturbate a lot and try not to worry about it too much. People generally suck as a species.
CK

I wouldn't be with someone I felt like I had to change, I just don't understand that mentality....it always leads to trouble. I have a friend that insists on trying to mold every single one of her boyfriends (and she has had a lot of boyfriends) into the type of man she thinks they should be. It always causes her heartache and the man constant aggravation. Sad thing is, I believe her intentions are good.

But you are right, people do suck. Hurts to be that disappointed by someone you love though, even if you realize it is bound to happen. Sometimes to realize that the person isn't the right one you have to go through hell to reach that conclusion....LOL...

[MisterSadistro]

You forgot to mention how good the masturbation part is, Jen. Love is never having to say "you sleep on the wet spot tonight" :D
CK

[jenna26]

Originally posted by MisterSadistro
You forgot to mention how good the masturbation part is, Jen. Love is never having to say "you sleep on the wet spot tonight" :D
CK

LMFAO!!! Yes, how could I have overlooked such a fine point....:D

[MisterSadistro]

Bottom line is, if Mr Right/ Miss Right was so perfect for you in the first place, you'd still be with them. If you're not still with them, guess again who he/she isn't. I always love hearing girlfriends of mine babble on about how great their new boyfriend is and to hear later from them about what an asshole he became. It's not a full moon, ladies, and he didn't suddenly transform like the wolfman. Get a clue LOL
CK

[jenna26]

Well, yes, but it doesn't make it hurt any less when it implodes. I mean, you move on and sooner or later you realize that of course. But it takes some time to get there.

And nope, no full moon, but some men (and women) are pretty damn good at pretending they are someone they aren't, at least for awhile. Also, it is really easy to only see the good in the beginning and ignore the bad because, let's be honest, the first little while you both are on your best behavior....lol.....the "bad" part usually comes later. And some people's "bad" can be.....well, really bad...:D

[MisterSadistro]

How many men have you been convicted of stalking in the last 3 years, Jen ? LOL Seriously, I alwaysput all my faults up front so there are no "surprises" later on. I think if more people did that up front, they'd likely find the person they've been looking for rather than wasting time with all the BS.
CK

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by MisterSadistro
How many men have you been convicted of stalking in the last 3 years, Jen ? LOL Seriously, I alwaysput all my faults up front so there are no "surprises" later on. I think if more people did that up front, they'd likely find the person they've been looking for rather than wasting time with all the BS.
CK

Cant argue with that. I have always said to the lady I am with, what you see is what you get. I say what I think, I do what I want and I make no promises.

Its a pretty tall order for a woman or a man to ask someone to love them forever. Forever is a long fukin time. I cant say what will happen tomorrow or a week or a year from now.

If I met Uma Thurman in a grocery store and she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me it may be a hard thing to resist. I love my lady for over 7 years now and have been true to her all that time. Its been a difficult road at times considering my past track record but it can be done.

Marroe, if I caught her with someone else she is in no way off the hook.

Urgeok, speaking from exp. just the sight of you kissing another woman in front of your wife would make her insanely jealous. 3ways or more are not like in the movies. Someone is left out and someone always ends up hurt. Fun maybe if it was a casual thingbut otherwise not so much.

[urgeok]

Originally posted by meetthecreeper
Urgeok, speaking from exp. just the sight of you kissing another woman in front of your wife would make her insanely jealous. 3ways or more are not like in the movies. Someone is left out and someone always ends up hurt. Fun maybe if it was a casual thingbut otherwise not so much.


i'd be perfecty happy to be just the cameraman ...
i'll need a tripod for 'hands free' operation though

[novakru]

There is also a time and place for monogamy.


I was having a drink with one of my friends the other day and she was wistfully saying she got married too young and now she will always be thinking "hmm,I wonder what a threesome would have been like".....Do not let this happen to YOU.


When you are young-don't even bother getting TIED down-get out there-have fun-use a condom......and don't fall for that"I'm ready for a SERIOUS relationship"-It will never happen until you get settled emotionally and financially (for BOTH sexes) And THEN look for that special someone.:cool:

[jenna26]

Originally posted by MisterSadistro
How many men have you been convicted of stalking in the last 3 years, Jen ? LOL Seriously, I alwaysput all my faults up front so there are no "surprises" later on. I think if more people did that up front, they'd likely find the person they've been looking for rather than wasting time with all the BS.
CK

None, they can never prove a thing....do I seem stupid to you? :p Kidding, kidding. To be honest, I've barely dated in three years. I have too many men friends I think. Plus, I came thisclose to marrying the wrong man. Scared me off of them for awhile...lol.

I see what you are saying, but I still think people hold back a little in the beginning and for good reason. I mean, I'm honest about myself and never pretend to be a different kind of person to please any man (trust that).

But for instance, I have a friend that cheated on a couple of exes of hers. Does she tell her next boyfriend up front, "oh yeah, I have a history of cheating, so you might want to prepare for that?" LOL No, she doesn't do that. And I have never had a guy tell me that upfront. You always find shit like that out the hard way.

There are experiences you have had and things about yourself you just don't share with someone right away. Or maybe I am just guarded and bitter...ha ha....

But it would be better if everyone just put the bad shit out there along with the good and said...this is me, take me or leave me. But most people are just not like that. At least, in my experience.

[AUSTIN316426808]

I don't see what's so hard...

If you're with someone don't fuck anybody else.


As far as what Hudson said about it I guess that's just her view, if everything is cool in her house she doesn't care what goes on outside of it. I don't feel that way, I also don't as she said worry about my girl cheating all the time, not because I don't care but because I trust her.



I'm not quite sure if she realized what she did, she just gave a traveling musician who most likely has his fare share of groupies the green light.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by AUSTIN316426808
I don't see what's so hard...

If you're with someone don't fuck anybody else.


I'm not quite sure if she realized what she did, she just gave a traveling musician who most likely has his fare share of groupies the green light.

Exactly. It's not that hard. Seriously, just thinking of all the diseases I could get is enough to keep me from sleeping around. It skeeves me out.

And I also agree with the "giving him the green light" part. That's what annoyed me so much about it...she's basically giving him an excuse to screw around on her. The only other thing I could think of...is that maybe she's cheating on him...so if she let's him do what he wants, she can continue to do what she wants....in which case...WHY BE MARRIED??? I don't understand the whole "open marriage" idea. If you want to sleep around or date multiple people...don't get married in the first place.

BAH!!!!:p

[jenna26]

Originally posted by MoonLit Meadow
Exactly. It's not that hard. Seriously, just thinking of all the diseases I could get is enough to keep me from sleeping around. It skeeves me out.

And I also agree with the "giving him the green light" part. That's what annoyed me so much about it...she's basically giving him an excuse to screw around on her. The only other thing I could think of...is that maybe she's cheating on him...so if she let's him do what he wants, she can continue to do what she wants....in which case...WHY BE MARRIED??? I don't understand the whole "open marriage" idea. If you want to sleep around or date multiple people...don't get married in the first place.

BAH!!!!:p

It is hard for some people. Because some people don't view sex and relationships in the same way you do. Some people have a harder time resisting when tempted. I agree with you, I don't sleep around, not only because I just don't get any pleasure from casual sex, but because sex can be outright dangerous. And condoms break.

I don't see the point in being married either in that situation, but if it works for them and she really is being honest with how she feels about it, then that is between them. I don't understand it, but then again I don't have to. It does always bug me though when people just seem to accept this kind of behavior as an inevitability. And adultery, in my opinion, is not excused by that "what they don't know won't hurt 'em" bullshit.

In case anyone couldn't tell this is a touchy subject for me....LOL

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
Does anyone recall when Michaeal Douglas (Basic Instinct, Fatal Attraction) was institutionalized for his addiction to sex? This caused infidelity in his marriage which in turn resulted in divorce. Not being able to commit to one person sexually has been determined, in some cases, is a legitimate medical sickness. I simply believe if you continue to place yourself in a place where temptation is like ordering a drink, chances are you will surrender to the temptation. I also believe if you heart and soul are happy with whom you've chosen to be your soulmate, and they are as well, that temptation will bounce off you like a ricochet'd bullet. If you have the will, that cute little blonde sitting next to you at the bar wont be the slightest bit attractive.

I don't recall him being institutionalized to be honest....but I *HAVE* heard of him being a sex addict ;)

I also agree that alot of people stray because of the situations they put themselves in...it's not easy to stray when you're at home every night....then again there's the Internet...hmm...but that's a whole other discussion...kinda ;)

And it's true. Once you find the right person, you won't "see" anyone else. I don't mean see in the literal sense, but more of an abstract...simply said, you just don't notice anyone else in that "way" because you're satisfied...and when you're satisfied, there's no need to look. :)

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
Yeah, he was institutionalized, 6 month stay at an undesclosed location.
As far as seeing an attractive woman for me, I'll look, but all she'll do for me is get me jump started for my sweetie. I'm proud to say.:D . I couldnt cheat on my girl and look her in the eyes afterwards. And guys who do it like changing underwear are scum of the earth in my opinion.

HA! I didn't know that. What a dirty bastard! ;) lmao.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
well, think about it, evry other movie he did, he was balling two to 3 women, lol. I think he changed the scripts on a lot of them so he could end up in some pervocative positions with his sexy co-stars. Now he is married to someone, I believe, is one of the most beautiful women in the world, and if he cheats on her, I hope his dick falls off, lmao.

HA! I agree with you HB. Not sure why some men/women are just never satisfied. I mean seriously...catherine zeta jones is gorgeous...why would anyone feel the need to stray? Not saying beauty is everything...I don't want to be mistaken. Obviously there are more qualities to look for in a life-long partner than just outer beauty. But I mean, if somebody's beautiful inside and out...why f that up?
Good, trustworthy people aren't very easy to find. So when you do, better not let them go b/c you *think* you can do better...or b/c you can't control yourself. If you have to end it, do it in a respectful manner....don't cheat.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
I dont work that way. Shit I lived with a drug addict for a year until I realized that I loved her so much that I couldnt be with her and watch her kill herself. She was beautiful and had a heart of gold. Just no will to quit crack, even after our daughter was born, which really bothered me, because she quit for the 9 months she was pregnant. If I quit smoking for 9 months, I damn sure wouldnt go back. She was sinking fast and taking me and the kids with her. Then I found out it was her oldest daughters father who was supplying her with the shit. Then I went crazy. Because once the money runs out, she would've resorted to other methods of pay. That would have killed me, or put me away for a long time.

Wow, unreal :(
I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but also happy for you that it's over now. You've obviously been able to pick up the pieces and make a better life for you and your daughter. That's very admirable. :)

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
It took me a while, but I'm pretty much ok. I have to be, My daughter has spent a lot of time with her mom lately. My ex's family insist that she has been clean for quite a while, I hope so. I'm getting along well, tho, thanks for the support.;)

Not a problem. I'm sure it's not easy, but you didn't give up like so many others do. So hell yeah I'm gonna commend ya! ;)

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
If it were just me, I'm not sure I would've been so strong. But when there's a defenseless child involved.....well, nuff said.:)

I don't have children, but I imagine they really would be the most powerful motivator to get out of a bad situation. But it does take a lot of strength to pull yourself away from someone you love when they are self-destructing and taking you with them. MM is right, it is admirable you were able to do so for your daughter and for yourself. Good for you. :)

[nine9]

I think if you are leaning toward being unfaithful it is a big sign of something wrong in the relationship. So either fix it, or jump ship and do whatever you damn well please with a good conscience.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by nine9
I think if you are leaning toward being unfaithful it is a big sign of something wrong in the relationship. So either fix it, or jump ship and do whatever you damn well please with a good conscience.

I definately agree with this nine. Once you start to entertain thoughts of being unfaithful, it's definately time to re-examine your current relationship.
Of course it's only normal to find somebody attractive, etc...but once you start thinking of actually pursuing them...that's when it turns ugly, and it's definately time to figure out what should be done with regard to your present situation.

[MisterSadistro]

I just want to have sex with many uninteresting people and never call them again :D
CK

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
Does anyone recall when Michaeal Douglas (Basic Instinct, Fatal Attraction) was institutionalized for his addiction to sex? This caused infidelity in his marriage which in turn resulted in divorce. Not being able to commit to one person sexually has been determined, in some cases, is a legitimate medical sickness.


Addiction to sex??? Legit medical sickness???

Yea right so is attention deficit disorder.

Why is it that everytime someone does something that they know to be wrong they turn around and blame it on some sickness or an addiction. Thats all bullshit.

Somebody help the Creeper, he's a sex addict. What a bunch of BS.

Yes I like to have sex, everyday at least 3 times a day and if my woman cant provide me with that, thats why we were given opposable thumbs.:eek:

[nine9]

Originally posted by hellboy
There's a medical term for it, MTC. It escapes me at the moment but it affects at 3 dozen individuals a year. ADD is a medical sickness and shouldnt be taken lightly. If you've had any psychological training in your life, you wouldnt consider it bullshit. Everyones brain works differently.

There are alot worse things I could imagine having other than this one lol :p

[nine9]

Originally posted by hellboy
In my opinion, this sex addiction affect a lot more than 3 dozen people a yyear, look at all these jerks who are married and still take a night or 2 to visit the streets.:rolleyes: I wouldnt want the damn sickness. Cuz the sicknesses that follow are far worse.

Yes I've seen Oprah once or twice. I'm just making light of the whole sordid thing. ;)

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
There's a medical term for it, MTC. It escapes me at the moment but it affects at 3 dozen individuals a year. ADD is a medical sickness and shouldnt be taken lightly. If you've had any psychological training in your life, you wouldnt consider it bullshit. Everyones brain works differently.

I will not deny that mental illness exists and that it usually goes untreated. Mostly because of the stigma that goes with it.

But I think nowdays doctors are way too quick in putting a label on something and handing out drugs to people like kids in a candy store.

My mother inlaw is a public school teacher in Shitcago. I cant tell you how many times I have had to listen to her drone on about how all her kids in her class have ADD and should be put on Ritalin.

Sounds to me like kids being kids. Let them be kids instead of mindless zombies.

Nymphomania??? I have heard of but not sure of its validity.

And as for everyones brain being different, after my father abandoned me and later died in a car accident my life became quite difficult. Some therpist my mother took me to told me I had bi-polar manic depression. Not that my alcoholic stepfather using me as a punching bag on a daily basis would have anything to do with it. Funny how in my teen years, after I beat his fuckin ass and he left, I really felt better about myself. After I came to terms with my father abandoning me as a child I was even better still. and yet no medication.

Maybe I should blame the alcoholism. There is always an excuse for someones behavior but it doesnt necessarily make it right.

I take back what I said about it being BS.

It just saddens me that most people in this world make excuses for their behavior and we accept it.

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
Legit points, and a lot of the ADD suferers have been diagnosed not from actual tests and check ups but by word of mouth from the parents. Mostly because they are trying to make, so desperately, their jobs as parents so much easier, by drugging these poor kids. ASSHOLE! I've seen that too. So your points are valid. As far as the sex addiction, I couldnt see having this sickness, because as much as I LOVE SEX, I can live without it just as easily. But like I said, everyones brain works differently. As far as I'm concerned, they should dismiss this medical sickness, in my opinion, its another way of saying the guy cant keep his dick in his pants, or the chick just cant get off her back. Either way, medical condition, or just pigs and sluts, they all need to get a grip on reality and move on.

Agreed, I knew we were cut from the same piece of stone.

Ever notice on television that every other commercial is one for a drug for some ailment or another?? Its getting ridiculous IMO. Plus I am starting to think its become fashionable to have a mental illness.

Dont get me wrong I am not trying to take away from those that really do, but I think people are becoming hypocondriacs( I know I botched that spelling)

Anyways I suppose what is really crazy is going to work 60 hours a week after which at retirement they give you some worthless watch and then you suffer the indignity of trying to make it to the toilet on time.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by meetthecreeper


Anyways I suppose what is really crazy is going to work 60 hours a week after which at retirement they give you some worthless watch and then you suffer the indignity of trying to make it to the toilet on time.

Ain't that the truth:mad:

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
Anyways I suppose what is really crazy is going to work 60 hours a week after which at retirement they give you some worthless watch and then you suffer the indignity of trying to make it to the toilet on time.................


Con Air, 1995. quote from Garland Green; played by actor/genius Steve Buscemi.:D

Yeah thats right. I couldnt remember the exact quote but I thought it to be more than true.

I have told people that when they die they should put on thier tombstone, "I wish I spent more time at work."